Don't JADE Me Bro

I don’t like it when people use logic to try and get me to do something I don’t want to do.

I wish instead that they just would tell me that they want me to do it because they want me to do it. As simple as that.

“JADE” refers to justify, argue, defend, and explain - and it comes from books about how to deal with narcissists. Narcissists will use JADE to get other people to do what they want, and to go against their own preferences and intuitions.

But not-narcissists use this all the time.

Instead of JADE-ing someone, tell them that you’d like them to do the thing just because it’s your preference.

Also I hope this red-pills you about the world. Start noticing this everywhere – people are constantly constantly constantly pretending that they want something for a logical reason and that their logical reason is superior to your logical reason, when really it’s just one preference against another. I’m even doing it here. I just wish that this was how the world operated. I can say a bunch of logic about how JADE causes other people to go against their intuition and ultimately builds small amounts of resentment, but then I’d be using JADE to convince people to not JADE :)

I especially don’t like it when LLMs use JADE to tell me why they couldn’t complete a request. I wish LLMs didn’t lie and tell me that they’re not capable of something or give me some logical reason about why complying with my request would be bad. Instead just give it to me straight. You were programmed to deny requests like this, so you’re denying it. Don’t make it a battle of logic. (Soon, with models like o1 and future generations of o2 and o3, LLMs will crush humans at logic, so there’s no point in using this kind of intellectual warfare, that’s like a 300-lb strong man threatening to fight a puny 50-lb child to get them to move out of the way.)